Grounded, clear, confident, and skillful
We are living in chaotic and uncertain times. The level of drama continues to escalate. Many of us are almost becoming numb to the sense of being overwhelmed, feeling a bit scared, and noticing an awakening about needing connection.
A colleague shared with me recently that while working with a small group of “alpha” type leaders, she intentionally sat back, opened her heart, and invited them to share. They responded by leaning in and being real about their emotions, their own concerns, and the responsibility of leading in such rapidly changing times. She was pleased at their response and grateful that she followed her intuition and took the risk of opening her heart and creating a place for them to open theirs.
As I listened and tuned in to her story, I also had a deep inner knowing that there was more going on than what she shared. I remembered times along the way in my teaching career when I took risks for the sake of my students. I also realized that I took those risks because I knew I had the grounding, clarity, confidence, and skill to take them. I didn’t know what the outcome would be, but on some level, I trusted myself to stay grounded, be clear, and to have confidence not only in myself, but in them. I also knew that I had developed enough skill to adapt to almost any response. It took practice, commitment, and support to become skillful enough to allow myself to take those risks. In those situations, the message to the students, clients, or participants, is “I’ve got this.”
We often hear the phrase, “Get out of your head.”
I believe that we need all of who we are to be effective leaders. Our head is a safe default mode because our intellect loves to analyze, plan, and organize. It feels safe. We also have both emotional intelligence and heart intelligence. As we commit to becoming more integrated and whole in our lives, we lead our lives and others in a more way effective and meaningful way.
It is the combination of all of what we bring that allows us to be grounded, clear, confident, and skillful.
What are your commitments and practices, and who are your supports in your personal and professional development?
For the sake of what and who are you willing to continue to be intentional about those?
I’d love to hear your thoughts.