I experience my time in nature as a metaphor for life. The untracked snow was an invitation. There are times I just want to follow others' ways of creating a life. I wonder what I’ve done wrong. Self doubt and fear show up. Those are indicators that I’ve left my path. I can actually feel it in my body, so I’m learning to really pay attention to how choices feel, not only emotionally, but physically.
There are so many quotes about the road less travelled. It sounds almost romantic and glamorous to be a non conformist, blazing our own trail, taking risks, and embracing the adventure. Saying yes to my talents, skills, commitments, and passions has not always been easy, but there is joyous effort in the exploration.
I discovered a term years ago that I resonated with: 'positive deviant'. Fitting in has never been important to me. Being rebellious became tiresome because it had consequences. Finding my own path has more freedom, creativity, and discovery in it. It’s not a choice for everyone, not for the faint of heart; and, there are times when making conventional choices create the structure required to give form to the exploration. I often say I am cleverly disguised as a beyond middle aged western woman in a suit with power point so I can offer experiences in settings where those forms are required. The experiences are often unexpected and deeply meaningful. My tribe of coaches calls that ‘making it normal.’ This came out of my mouth in just such a setting five years ago:
“The collective unnamed longing in our culture is for connection.”
I think we are craving connection. We are not always aware of it until we experience it. The experience of more real, deeper connections can and do happen in workshops, trainings, retreats, and group coaching. It is a prerequisite. Everything comes from that connection, including skill building, tools, practices, and commitments to cultural change.
As I create my vision for 2016 I often refer to a quote by John O’Donohue:
You can trust the promise of this opening;
Unfurl yourself into the grace of beginning
That is one with your life’s desire.
One of my life’s desires is to create opportunities for deep connection in the workplace. I believe where there is connection there is meaning, purpose, focus, engagement, and results. The power of results based on relationships will outlast any results not based on meaningful connections with others.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts, experiences, and insights.
Let’s all make a commitment to being the one who brings caring connection into our lives and the world.