I have a good friend who lives and works in two very remote locations for about 4 months each during the year. She is in transition from one place to another. We met for tea recently and I asked her about her roles in each setting. The remoteness and the isolation are factors that impact the work that gets done. People come in and out of each place regularly. They are not used to the pace, the focus, or the impact the weather has on what happens. As she described her roles, I imagined her being a camp counselor, a mediator, a guide, a teacher, and a personal support person for those around her including other employees as well as with the clients. They are environments that can bring out the best and worst in any of us. It was fascinating to hear about it and to imagine the intensity of being that person. As she told stories I heard her say several times, “I make cookies a lot, and then I just say, have a cookie.”
It reminded me of teaching kindergarten. When the children were stressed, especially if they got scared, they would all look at me. My role was to be calm, grounded, focused and present. They would follow my lead and settle down. It was a version of “have a cookie.”
I often ask my clients, “What do people do when you walk into the room?” It is a way of bringing their attention to their impact. One leader watched for a week and came to our next session asking, “If they scatter like mice, is that bad?” I suggested that it was all just information.
We all bring our own energy into the room.
You cannot be who you are, where you are, and not have an impact.
Notice your impact? What energy do you bring when you enter any space?
Try playing with it. Experiment, explore, and let me know what you discover.