- Eckhart Tolle
I recently co-facilitated a workshop with my good friend and colleague Souheir Rawlings. The purpose of the workshop was for the participants to create vision boards. I often hear myself ask, “What are you willing to let go of and what are you willing to say yes to?”
What do you want more of, what do you want less of or no more of?
One of my visions is to work with others more often. Collaboration requires many skills. It sounds like a nice idea that we can all agree is a good thing. Working with colleagues can be an experience of mutual high regard, respect, trust, the ability to adapt in the middle of whatever you are up to, and a willingness to not have answers and know the outcome. Those ways of being take practice.
Some would say building trust takes time. It also takes courage. Letting go of an imagined or definitive outcome requires trusting a group to have its own intelligence and going with that. Measurable outcomes are good. I am an evidence based professional..really …a research junkie from my years in special education and behavior management. I love watching people behave. The principles of human behavior hold up across ages, stages, and states of being. Ken Wilber talks about stages of development and states of consciousness. It is endlessly fascinating to me to watch myself (wince) and others behave our way into things.
And…as I move through my own stages and states I am keenly aware of how much growth requires letting go!
Here comes the nature piece. When I am clinging, grasping, totally gripped by what I want, I go outside to release the grip. Climbing is a wonderful metaphor for so much of life. The first time I went climbing (Donner Pass 1975) I had to learn to let go and trust my equipment and my belayer. I must have said “You got me?” thousands of times. I think I still say that to my Source daily…. “You got me?”
The natural world is healing. All of the walking in the snow, looking up, bald eagles, blue sky or pea soup fog days of this winter have helped me let go, heal, and trust that my contribution to each day is setting the stage for what’s next. I never really know the outcome of any choice except how it feels. My vision includes more ease, joy, gratitude, and faith.
What are you willing to let go of and what are you willing to say yes to?