"I’ve always been a bit of an introvert, but just because you don’t fit the classic mold doesn’t
mean you can’t be a leader.” -- Jess Lee, CEO of Polyvore
I coach a lot of introverts.
I’m an introvert.
When I say that, many people say, “No you aren’t!” However, being an introvert
isn’t about how talkative you are. It’s about how you restore. Introverts need
solitude, time to reflect, and then they offer up what they have.
For many people, what I call “wait time”, the time it takes someone to respond,
can be long. Wait time should be at least 8 seconds for everyone.
Factoid: it takes a fully intact, healthy, adult brain 8 seconds to take information
in, process it, and formulate a meaningful response.
Try this: hold your breath for 8 seconds.
Count it to yourself, slowly.
Really allow it to be a full 8 seconds.
Notice how long it feels.
How often in our day to day interactions, especially at work, do we take 8 seconds
to formulate a meaningful response?
Finding your own style or way in the world, being who you are, takes
commitment, practice, support, and courage. As Jess Lee says above, “Just
because you don’t fit the classic mold doesn’t mean you can’t be a leader.”
Deep self-awareness and a willingness to grow and show up as who you are
And, there is nothing touchy-feely about any of this. It’s requires being
intentional, paying attention, being brave, and never giving up.
I’d love to hear your thoughts.